ALWAYS BELIEVE YOUR CHILD AND THEIR BEHAVIORS THEY EXHIBIT VS THE ABUSERS MANIPULATIVE CLAIMS
When your child complains in anyway shape or form of anything that sounds like sexual abuse believe them. Children will randomly make comments regarding the abuse as a cry for help through the threats to be silent about it from their abuser. In order to understand what your child is explaining and experiencing you need to understand the abusers clever tactics and extreme manipulation. The abuser will threaten, isolate, hit, slap, kick, intimidate, brainwash, bribe and silence their victim with any means necessary to keep the abuse a secret. Almost all child molesters will threaten children with murder and or murder of their mother or someone close to them in order to keep power and control of the child. Power and control are what the abuser thrives off of which is why they abuse vulnerable helpless children that they feel they can have complete power and control over. 60 percent of batterers that batter the mother will molest their children as well.
When your child makes very confusing statements never disregard them, they are brainwashed statements from their abuser. Most molesters will try to make the child believe an object or make-believe character such as monsters, animals, frogs, parrots, etc are what is molesting the child. Common statements from abused toddlers will sound like this: "Daddy makes me touch his worm" "Grandpa makes me sit on his lap and bounce until the snake dies" "The parrot hurts my pee pee" "My baby wants you to kiss its tongue" "The scary big pink guy wants to see my boobies".... Theses are real actual statements from abused children. Pay close attention to the brainwashing statements they will make from being threatened such as, "I can't tell you, daddy said so" "I am a bad girl" "I made him mad" "Daddy said I made him hit me." Younger children will play games that will show the abuse. They will act out exactly what has happened to them. For instance look at the SaveAaliyah.com case, the child is choking, hitting, kicking, burying, her dead toys then hiding mommies and babies to be safe. The site mentions multiple games of the child thoroughly showing abuse through her play. The visitation reports show her stating her daddy toys, daddy Mr Potato Head to be exact has angry eyes that she wants to rip out so he can't see her. If your child is being abused they will regress to a time they felt safe and in control of their life since the abuser has robbed that from them. For instance most toddlers will regress in potty training and breast feeding. Some children will either regress in their speech or speak more out of anxiety in order to not have to think about the abuse. I've seen through a number of female victims that they seem to talk more out of anxiety rather than regress. If your child is being abused they will be afraid and fear certain places, people, objects, a certain sex, etc. Most will become afraid of the dark, need night lights and be afraid of the place the abuse is occurring. If its happening in a bed they will be afraid of a bed, if its happening in the bathtub they will be afraid of the bathtub, etc. If your child is afraid of certain objects like their tooth brush assume safely there is a reason for their fear. If your child is afraid of males, a male is abusing them.
Because of enduring the abuse your child will have random symptoms of PTSD. Symptoms such as randomly screaming because they are afraid they are going to be hurt, or hitting themselves because they are often hit, they will also try to hide to feel safe. Some PTSD symptoms or episodes will look like the child ceasing from how they will fling their bodies around or be mistaken as a tantrum. Your child will suffer from night terrors and nightmares, sleeping disturbances and eating disturbances.
Physical symptoms will include frequent bruises, rashes around mouth or genitals, weight loss, depression, bladder infections, stomach aches and withdrawn. Also your child can exhibit only few symptoms or no symptoms depending on how groomed, threatened, and brainwashed your child is. It might seem as normality to them depending on how long they have been suffering the abuse. When you see these signs at all, know that your child is being abused and never listen to the abuser. The abuser will have an excuse for everything and will typically place the blame on their victims, the mother and or child. At any of these signs take your child to the Emergency room. Do not involve the police, CPS, or system in any way by yourself. Document the abuse through the ER and doctors every single time.
If you have any questions or concerns for your child, the survivors at this blog will be more than glad to answer your questions.
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